Monthly Archives: August 2012


How do I love thee – let me count the ways…..

Wow, true love.  Enduring love.  Love that happens without judgment.  The forever love.

How often does that happen?  It can happen!  I know people!  Really.  Just the other day… oh, wait they are divorced now.  Okay, so it happens occasionally.  I have that kind of love.  Even though we parted after 5 years and came back together 26 years later and after 8 years we haven’t killed each other, yet.  That’s an accomplishment, right?  Just kidding.  I am blessed to have found, after 26 years of kissing many frogs, to have been reunited with my king.  Most days he treats me like a queen.  Some days I am the servant girl.  It all works out.

What about when it didn’t happen? How many times have you had your heart broken because you extended it out in all good faith, loaned it or completely gave it way, only to have the person stomp on it, treat it like a piece of garbage or completely dismiss it?

How If you are 9, the chances are slim unless you are from an abusive home.

But, if you are 50, the chances are really high beginning with your first “true love” in elementary school, to the first crush, the first kiss, the prom, the guy at work, the person you met at the bus station, the married man who didn’t tell you he was married, etc… the list goes on and on.  Wow – that was depressing!  Quickly moving on…

Now, have many times have you been in relationship then saw something prettier, shinier, richer, more interesting – and the guy was on the losing end of the deal?

Okay, so the women’s side of the list was longer and more dramatic.  So, sue me – I’m a woman and it really is all about us, right?  We are, after all the weaker sex, right?  So fragile, to be protected and guided by the elbow in the right direction because we can’t find it on our own.

Sorry, I got dramatic again.  And, I admit that I tend to ramble.

I’ll try to keep it to a minimum and let you get through this article without any damage.

Okay my loves.  This is the jest of it; No one can hurt you.  Really.  Think about it.  We are infinite beings with infinite consciousness, infinite strength, and infinite possibilities.

How many women have you known that have raised their children without a husband?  How many women have you known that have battled cancer, addictions, mental health and it only makes them stronger?  We are very resilient creatures.

God created us with a purpose.  The purpose was to be conscious.  Are you conscious?   Are you at the whim of other people’s reactions, judgments, intentions?  Or are you of strong conviction to yourself?

“This above all: to thine own self be true”.  Okay, so the rest of the script wasn’t that interesting, but those 9 words are very prophetic, aren’t they?

Gather yourself up.  Take stock on who you are, where you have been, where you are going.   Don’t just be satisfied with existing everyday.

Get up in the morning; greet your relatives that live with you. Look in the mirror and greet the most beautiful, beloved being of light that you have ever been blessed to see.  Go outside and greet your relatives that live outside your home during the day – in your gardens, in your neighborhood.  Greet the sun and thank him for all that he does to heal you and assist you in seeing those things that are in plain sight but that you dismiss or ignore.  At night, go outside and greet the moon and thank her for providing light at night so that you can see through the darkness and see those things that others might try to hide from you.  Greet those relatives who live outside your home that only come out at night.

Unconditional love – you are the only being on the planet or in the universe that can love you unconditionally… well, except Creator and the mother.  But, you know what I mean.

Celebrate yourself.  Walk tall, proud and with confidence that you are an infinite being of light created to shine!  They should be busy loving and honoring themselves.  And, it’s a special blessing when you can come together with another infinite being and share that light.  Everyone else is just here for your company and entertainment.  Love them as you would love yourself; hopefully, without judgment and without conditions.  Another important quote “First, do no harm”….


Have you ever been in a situation where someone stopped talking to you because you said something that they didn't agree with?  Then they told the story over and over to anyone who would listen?  Then they would "slam" you ever chance they got?  And, no matter what you did, what you said they just threw as many hateful thoughts at you as they possibly could?  It's exhausting to think about it.  What's worse is what you know their holding to the anger is doing to their body.
Should you care?  Really?  What can you do about it?  Nothing really.
If the anger is driving them in some way, there is nothing you can do to minimize it.  You do have to wonder what drives a person to hold onto such a destructive force?
Do they hate themselves more than they hate you?  Do they want to punish themselves so much that they hired you to make them so mad that they had an excuse for hurting themselves.  Because, really... how much is it hurting you, or are you standing back watching this thinking to yourself, "What an idiot. I've forgiven them for much worse."
You wouldn't believe, or maybe you will, how many people I treat or coach every day that the root problem is anger, grief, resentment or fear.   Those are all silent killers.  Of course, we don't think about that when we are in the middle of the vibration.  Most people can't see past the energy of anger.   And, they wonder why they are sick or can't move forward in their lives.
One word "Forgiveness" is the key to a healthy, happy life.
You don't have to forget who or what you feel hurt you.  Forgiveness may save your life, though.
Did you know that holding onto anger, resentment and blame has the possibility of creating so many health issues such as stomach problems, high blood pressure, anxiety, heart attacks/problems, even cancer?   There are studies on it!  Really.
Did you know that just the action of "being pissed off" creates havoc with your kidneys?
And, did you know that telling the same old tired stories of how someone screwed up your life or screwed over you just keeps that sick energy going?  What's the purpose of it?
Let it go, please.  Just realize that no one is responsible for you, for your life, for taking care of you or cleaning up after you - but YOU.  The only person who can screw up your life is YOU.  And, in the same light - the only person who can change your life for the better is YOU...  It really is all about you and what YOU do with YOUR life.
There are many ways of freeing yourself from that anger that don't even include speaking to the person.
Here are a few:
  1. Imagine them standing or sitting in front of you.  Tell them what they have done that you feel was hurtful.  Get it all out... rage at them if you have to.  Let it all go.
  2. Write the person a letter.  You never have to mail it even.  You can burn or bury it with the symbolism of letting it go.
  3. Draw or paint your impression of the situation, with full color. Again, you can bury it or burn it but please don't hang on to it - no matter how cool you think it turned out.
  4. Get in your car, get on the freeway (not during rush hour) and scream it out.  No one can hear you in the car on a freeway.....  and you can say all the ugly things you might not ever say in person.  Rage, scream, cry until you have said all that is to be said on the subject.
  5. Last but not leastly... and my favorite, of course is to use emotional tranceformation:  Think about the person, where do you feel them in your body, soften and flow until the energy finds it's appropriate exit from your body.  Bring them back up again.  Where's the energy now, soften and flow, etc.  Bring them up one last time, where's the energy now and is it less or does it come in and flow right back out.  Then imagine the situation that has caused you so much anger... where do you feel that in your body, soften and flow, etc, doing that atleast three times as well or until the energy comes in and flows back out quickly.   If that doesn't work - email me at
    See how powerful you are?  What will you do with all that power - good or bad?

Someone asked me recently about how one can afford to go to all these seminars, workshops, retreats, webinars, etc.   That’s an excellent question that has me processing the same thing every time I get notices in the mail.

One could easily spend their paycheck every week attending the many options for learning, growing and healing.  And, if I could I probably would but then there is the consideration of food, gas, rent and necessities.   What do I spend my money on?  What is most important to me?

There are those that say “I don’t have any money – I am broke – I can’t afford to come to your workshop” then they will go to the beauty shop get a cut and color or have a manicure or massage.   Or they take a vacation for a week.  Or perhaps they go shopping and spend $300 on clothes.  Or they will go out and eat several times that week or to a movie.   Or perhaps they will get Starbucks every day.   Or perhaps they will go to the bookstore or music store and spend an easy $75.

I am not saying any of those things are not important.  The truth is – it’s your money and you have the right to spend in on anything you want to.  That’s the key, isn’t it?  “On anything you want to”  So, when people tell me that they can’t afford something are they really saying “this isn’t what I want to spend my money on right now”?

If you add up everything that you spent during the week on things that were outside of survival, how much would it be?  I know that I have spent $300 easy on things that weren’t really necessary and some of them I never used.

There are those that will say “I know that I want to do this for myself so I will make some adjustments in my spending this week”.  And, perhaps they will bring their lunch every day and wait till the next check for the cut, massage, manicure, etc.

I will tell you this – I am the same procrastinator as many.  What I have noticed about myself, though, is that if the workshop (or whatever) is important enough to me I always manage to manifest the extra money even if it means not doing something else that I wanted to do.

I have probably spent $5,000 in just the last year on alternative healing seminars, conferences, workshops, books, dvd’s and audios.  I could have chosen to spend that elsewhere, but it was important to my healing and growth and so I gladly spent the money.    It’s not that I had an extra $5,000.  It is that I found a way to manifest it whether it was working extra jobs or cutting out something else.   There were times that I searched my bookshelves and found books that I no longer cared about and listed them on Amazon to earn some extra cash.   Or I manifested some extra clients to earn money.

This is the way I look at it.  Is it something that calls to me?  Is it something that will enhance my life?  Does the facilitator offering this information know their business?  Would I be getting my money’s worth?  After all, if I have spent that amount of money and time growing my skill as an alternative healer and teacher and I offer that information to others, should they not be willing to pay for that quality of service and information just as I did?  And, if you are resentful of paying them the fee they ask for, how receptive are you going to be to what they offer?  Will you be so closed up that you don’t receive any healing or information and come away saying “well, that was a waste of money!”?

Which brings up another thought:   If you pay the ridiculous rate of $1,500 for a class that would offer your certification to treat and/or teach others , would you be getting your money’s worth?    Let’s do the math, you pay $1,500 for the course, then you turn around and charge $1,500 for the same course with 10 participants 1 time.   What about the rest of the year, the rest of your life?  How much profit do you think you might have made on your investment?  Was it worth it?

And, what about healing?   What about those who complain about a therapist prices?  What is the difference in someone who charges $40 and someone who charges $750?   Sometimes it is quality of education, experience and range of services.  Sometimes it is about an elevated ego and there is no difference.  Sometimes it is about a deflated ego and in that case even if the person has extended education and experience you would not get the same quality of service because they don’t feel that they are “worth it”.

Am I talking in circles?  Most likely.   There is no clear cut answer to these questions.  It’s all about vibrations.   Who do you resonate with?  What course, class, seminar, etc, do you resonate with?  What or who do you feel comfortable spending money with?    Because if you don’t pay the fees with a clear understanding then you will not be receptive of what is offered.  Whose fault is that?