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What Is Anxiety?

Anxiety – A few simple facts

Anxiety is a form of fear that happens as a result of thoughts, rather than because of real immediate danger in the present environment.

People, unlike animals, can cause ADRENALINE to be produced in their own bodies in DIRECT RESPONSE TO a thought.

Because the thought and the environment are not the same (as it would be for a zebra which spots a lion), the action requisite to get rid of the adrenaline in the system doesn’t happen (the zebra starts to run, which is why it needs the adrenaline shock injection in the first place!).

What happens in people is that they don’t get rid of the adrenaline, so it  builds up, and up – causing MORE thoughts which in turn trigger MORE adrenaline releases.

Symptoms Of Anxiety

Too much adrenaline in the body causes ALL the symptoms anxiety sufferers are so familiar with:

  • The typical changes in the heart rate associated with anxiety;
  • Body sensations like dry mouth and throat, trembling (like in shakey handwriting), sweating, flushing, chest pains and tightness in the chest, being unable to breathe properly;
  • Racing thoughts that spin out of control; paranoia and hallucinations;
  • Headaches (stress headaches, anxiety headaches), migraines;
  • Vision disturbances, dizzyness, inability to see things clearly or to interpret what is being seen correctly (like dyslexia or totally failing to make sense of numbers, maths, symbols, maps, etc.);
  • Digestive problems as digestion is shut down or reduced during adrenaline outbursts;
  • Eating problems such as sugar cravings (insulin reduces adrenaline in the blood), hunger pangs, and also loss of appetite on the other hand;
  • Hypervigilance or becoming overly sensitive to all sorts of sounds, sights, touches, tastes and smells;
  • Failure to be able to concentrate on the here-and-now, functional failures (performance anxiety) like clumsiness, erection problems, “blocks” (to writing, public speaking, social skills, learning etc. etc), forgetfulness;
  • Inability to focus on others, making good connections with others, attuning or relating to others;
  • Sleep disturbances, trouble getting to sleep, sleeping badly, feeling tired and worn out as a result – which makes all of the above even worse;

… and that is just the tip of the iceberg.

Anxiety, in contrast to natural fear, is thereby a PHYSIOLOGICAL state of a body that is too full of adrenaline, and the mental or psychological problems and the behaviour problems and performance problems normally associated with high stress and anxiety are just a RESULT of that underlying problem.

Who suffers from anxiety?

People who have already a build up of adrenaline in their bodies have nowhere to go when a frightening thought strikes – their adrenaline levels spike into the red immediately and the longer they stay there, the worse all the symptoms of their anxiety will become, physical, mental and emotional.

This is the same for a stressed and anxious child and baby as it is for adults. It is structural, human and entirely logical.

Any human who is stressed for too long, or has been stressed repeatedly severely (in war, bullying, abusive relationship), or is unable to escape an ongoing stressful environment (family, school, prison, army, work) will eventually show the symptoms of anxiety, some or many of them, depending on how severe the stress is they have been under, and for how long it has been going on.

The highest end and last-ditch “emergency defense” of high anxiety is to have a panic attack. The systems in the body (and mind, and energy system) become so chaotic that “something has to give”. Panic attacks are “nature’s restart button” on a computer that is blue screening.

Is anxiety genetic?

A child reared by anxious parents will naturally be more anxious than a child reared by non-anxious parents. Although genetics may play a small part, environment and HOW this is being responded to is much, much more important than genetics.

Stressed and anxious people create a stressful atmosphere AROUND them, and those who look to their leadership for security (children with parents, workers with managers, soldiers with officers, students with teachers etc.) will likewise experience far more stress than if their leader or responsible adult was calmer and more in control of their environments.

It is far more important to remove excess stress hormones from the body quickly and as soon as possible than to wonder if there are any genetic components to being affected this way.

In other words, anxiety or adrenalin allergy is absolutely curable and at the very least, it can be MARKEDLY REDUCED.

What is the difference between social anxiety, separation anxiety, performance anxiety?

The only difference between any appearance of the symptoms of anxiety, regardless if this is a maths anxiety, sexual or social anxiety, an anxiety about dogs and cats, jury duty, test anxiety, or public speaking is the TRIGGER which causes the adrenaline spikes to go into the red.

It is important to understand that WHAT the trigger is doesn’t mean ANYTHING about a person who suffers from anxiety disorders and their symptoms – the problem is ALWAYS that there is already a high underlying level of adrenaline rushing around their systems when they meet the trigger. They have nowhere to go, the adrenaline spikes go into the red and that’s when the flare up happens.

Just as people can become accidentally phobic of just about anything at all, they can become extremely anxious about anything at all – this has little or nothing to do with REAL danger or any logical reasons and is mostly simply accidental.

New effective tools for coping with anxiety

Ideally, we don’t want to think of “coping” with it, but to remove the problem and all the many symptoms altogether and get a HEALTHY ADRENALINE SYSTEM back into action.

In order to do this, systematic desensitisation is NOT a good option because we want to ELIMINATE THE FEAR RESPONSES, rather than to get used to more and more pain as we go on.

  • It is extremely important to remove excess adrenaline from our bodies as soon as possible, because serious, very serious long term health damage is the risk here, not to speak of the incredible psychological damage to self esteem, happiness, fulfilment and joy in life which is being caused by the adrenaline allergy systems.

Someone who suffers from severe stress or anxiety is often very likely to view the future bleakly, feel themselves out of control and unable to achieve anything meaningful at all.

They have to cope with many physical and psychological symptoms, problems with substances, addiction and all sorts of limiting behaviours which naturally leads to becoming very depressed.

Stimulating, exciting, exhilarating, new and challenging events become rare in their lives because these would trigger the adrenaline spikes with their awful symptoms, so with so much fear and so little joy every day, it is no wonder that many people who suffer from anxiety symptoms and disorders get very, very depressed and unhappy on top of it all.

A Two Part Approach To End Anxiety Problems

When we consider any anxiety related disorder to be nothing more than an adrenalin allergy, we can know right away that the right methods of treating anxiety come in two parts.

  • 1. A treatment for the high anxiety situations.

The high spikes of heavy adrenaline shots into an already overstressed system cause the most serious problems of them all, and so it is very, very natural and even extremely HEALTHY for any individual to AVOID situations which could cause these.

As anxieties can flare up at any time, become triggered by all sorts of environments and all kinds of thoughts and memories, the only real possibility of total avoidance is an absolute withdrawal from life – or death in other words. It is sad to consider that there were people who took that option, simply because they could not live with their anxiety/depression/ill health spirals any longer.

The natural and effective treatments for anxiety, or rather, for the adrenaline problems in the body which CAUSE the anxiety, is the same as what is needed for the second, and even more important aspect of people who suffer from adrenaline allergies, namely:

  • 2. To reduce dramatically the BASE LEVELS OF STRESS they are under all the time.

This is the key to treating the adrenaline problems in the first place.

When we start with a baseline of a lot less anxiety, there is more room for real things to come in WITHOUT causing the dreaded anxiety spikes as the systems goes into the red, and thoughts spiral out of control, physical symptoms occur and behaviour and life falls apart.

This is a two pronged approach which will make a TREMENDOUS difference, especially in the long term, to anyone’s levels of health, happiness and self esteem.

A Self Help Treatment Programme For Ending Anxiety

The very first rule:

STOP berating YOURSELF for suffering from an adrenaline allergy.

It is NOT your fault.

These things just happen in our society and the way we live, it is INCREDIBLY common and you KNOW just about everyone is “stressed out” most of the time.

The fact that you are afraid doesn’t mean ANYTHING about you – you’re not a coward, you don’t suffer from having “no will power” and there’s actually, nothing wrong with you at all. You are responding to YOUR situations EXACTLY like someone would who was in YOUR situation, and who happens to be – YOU.

  • Instead, stop for a moment and think how LUCKY you are to have found out about this in a way that can NOT be ignored, and so you are forced to sort this NOW, rather than spending your entire life running around in circles, never getting to experience what you really longed for, and then dying of a stroke or a heart attack a few years after you’ve “retired”.

I am completely serious about this.

Adrenalin allergies are DEATHLY in every way, and I am incredibly glad that you will be spared the breakdowns of your health and happiness simply because you have really learned what this is, and you have a really good motivation to sort it out, once and for all.

The outcome of this programme is that you should become actually a happier, braver, MORE efficient and proactive person than those you are looking at right now and thinking that they’ve got it all sussed. “They” don’t. They just don’t know it like you and I do, and they will pay the price in many ways for not dealing with their “stress” here and now.

The Core Anxiety Treatment

This is really simple and easy, and involves a special version of an Energy Therapies self help programme which is vaguely related to acupuncture, only you can do it with your own hands and fingertips instead, and it works not just on the body, but on the mind, on your emotions and on your thoughts, all together and all at the same time.

Our thoughts and our energy system (which is being treated in for example, acupuncture, acupressure, faith healing, energy healing, Reiki, meditation, Karate, Yoga, and many, many more likewise powerful and practical techniques) are LINKED.

  • When we think disturbing thoughts, our energy system becomes disturbed IMMEDIATELY – and that is what causes the adrenaline injections straight into our physical bodies.

Likewise, when our energy system runs calm an clear, our thoughts can’t help but run calm and clear also.

The energy body and thought are one and the same, and the state of one reflects the state of the other.

In this way, thoughts don’t impact the body directly, but VIA THE CONNECTOR of the energy system.

  • We might not be able to control our thoughts or calm them with ease, but we CAN CALM THE ENERGY SYSTEM and then the thoughts follow as they must.

This is the key to reducing the amount of adrenaline in our systems.

This is the key to being able to calm ourselves right down, so we get to sleep properly again, eat properly again, feel strong and healthy, and can handle surprise and the daily shocks of living easily as we flow swiftly from one experience to the other, like the weather changes outside as it must so the planet remains healthy.

Heart Healing

The most important energy system “organ” is the energy heart – this is the nuclear reactor at the center of the energy system. It powers all of the energy system and is intricately linked to every part of us – thought, physical body, meridians, the lot.

  • Get the Heart stabilised, and ALL YOUR SYSTEMS will be stronger, more powerful and work better.

People still pray and meditate to achieve “peace of mind” which is the same as “peace of energy system”.

We are going to use this oldest of techniques as a general anxiety and adrenaline remover prescription, at least 3x a day, EVERY DAY, as our central stabilisation process.

Healing The Heart, Heart Healing, Herzheilen Logo

Place both hands on your heart of energy.

  • Close your eyes and feel your hands.
  • Move the hand closest to your chest very lightly in a circle and take seven deep breaths in and out, counting down on the out breath aloud:
  • 7
  • 6
  • 5
  • 4
  • 3
  • 2
  • 1
  • 0

On Zero, open your eyes and continue with your day.

This takes only a minute but it gives your body a break, like a miniature holiday. Three such little holidays EVERY DAY will begin to take off some of the accumulated adrenaline and reduce your overall stress levels for the sake of 3 x 1 minute spend.

  • Do this regularly and you will find that it becomes EASIER AND EASIER to slow down, to calm down.

With practice, this simple gesture becomes a stabilisation ritual in moments of crisis as well.

Real Energy Body Healing

This next treatment is more specific and deals with the worst places where you can feel the physical results of your anxiety the most.

This is a real feeling in the body. For some it is the head; for others it is the throat, for others yet again, it can be chest, or stomach. Some people’s hands or feet get very cold.

You know where you feel it FIRST and when you feel THAT body sensation (not an imagination or a thought, a real physical feeling!), your stress is already at dangerous levels.

Meridian Re-Balancing Full Treatment For Stress & Anxiety

Your thoughts, your energy system and your body are ONE system, so by treating our energy system and using our thoughts to “call off the emergency” we get the body to calm down and follow suit – the result is that the adrenaline slowly disappears and with it, the anxiety melts away.

When that happens, our thoughts become clearer as well and not only do we FEEL better, we can THINK and ACT better, too.

Example: Anxiety Symptom: Shakey Handwriting

Under stress, Tony, a student, would experience trembling from anxiety which would cause his hands to shake minutely and produce ragged, untidy and shakey handwriting. When he thought about it, he felt the first symptoms to know it was coming not in his hands but in his back and neck which would go “rock hard and solid, nearly painful”. The shaking would follow soon after.

This is a classic example of how a part of the energy system, in this case located in Tony’s back and shoulders, locked up and stopped the smooth flow of energy into his hands.

To treat this, Tony sat down at his writing desk and looked at something that he had written which was very shakey to bring on the symptoms of anxiety, in his case the locking up in his neck and shoulders.

Then he began the meridian balancing treatment, breathing in and out deeply on each meridian point and saying out aloud, “I want to repair that blockage in my neck, soften and flow.”

Halfway through the session he could feel the blockage softening and “running down his arms, back and shoulders like warm water”. As soon as this happened, he also took a big sigh of relief, that turned nearly into a yawn.

When the session was finished, he felt calm and clear and the work itself did no longer frighten him.

Here is how to do the full meridian balancing treatment, step by step.

1. Find the place in your body that shows your anxiety the most. That is where the energy blockage lies which stops on the physical level the adrenalin from dispersing properly and flowing away.

2. Focus on that place, put your hands on your heart in the Heart Healing posture.

Say out aloud, “I want to repair this blockage (and then name where it is, in your stomach, in your head, in your back, in your throat etc.)”

Breathe in and out deeply and then say it again, three times in all.

Remember to breathe in and out deeply each time.

Main Meridian Balancing Points Diagram For Stress & Anxiety Self Help Protocol3. Now place two fingers on the following points, one after the other.

– Make a tiny circle with your fingertips there.

– Breathe in and out deeply.

– Say, “I want to repair this blockage in my (…)

– Breathe in and out deeply.

Then move on to the next point and do it again.

4. Finish once more in the Heart Healing position with three deep breaths in and out, but don’t say the statement again.

This time listen in to yourself to find out how calm you are now.

If you wish, you can repeat the treatment up to three times.

Super Quick Treatment for Anxious Thoughts and Every Day

People who suffer from anxiety induced by an adrenalin allergy experience adrenaline shots or “spikes” at many times during the day. As soon as this happens, we need to treat it right away, there and then, with the following quick meridian clearer.

Stress & Anxiety Self Help Diagram - Under Eye Tap

  • Here, we tap rhythmically on the meridian points under the eye, switching from side to side, and simply think or say, “Adrenalin allergy” until we can take a sigh of relief which is our sign that the tension and the adrenalin is receding.

NB: Don’t wait for big spikes to happen and before you are really anxious.

Use this super quick treatment immediately and as soon as you notice the “spike” has occurred.

You can do this anywhere, even in public, and in conjunction with the other treatments, it is quickly effective and PREVENTS THE OVERALL BUILD UP that causes the real deep anxiety in the end.

So it is very important to treat yourself right away when you are noticing a spike:

  • Whilst watching TV (movies AND news, and anything else that makes you anxious, even an advertisement can!)
  • In traffic or whilst driving (you only need one hand)
  • Out and about when shopping, or even before you leave the house and think about going out;
  • In school and exam situations;
  • When dealing with mail, or whilst on the telephone;
  • In social situations where you notice an anxiety spike.

Example: Social Anxiety

Kathy, a high school student, was extremely anxious of social situations such as parties but also had a hard time with being by herself in the library, or walking into the dining hall. She had been doing the full treatments for about a week when an important party came up and she decided to go.

She had to treat herself with the full treatment at the thought once, then the quick treatment was sufficient to help her decide what to wear, to get her dressed, made up, out of the house and during the travel to the venue.

When she arrived at the venue, she became very anxious, went to the ladies room and treated herself there, especially concentrating on her lower abdomen, which felt extremely hot and painful. This settled her enough to be able to rejoin the party, and she was able to stay and even talk and dance a little with the help of a few surreptitious taps under her eye.

She was delighted with her progress and now is actively looking forward to a class picnic “so I can practice until I feel really comfortable all the time, and this awful anxiety is finally behind me!”

In Conclusion:

The above protocols are tried and tested with many, many people and help significantly reduce overall levels of anxiety, even for people who suffer from chronic anxiety and have done so for a long time.

Please USE these ideas and especially, TAKE NOTICE of how you feel, all the time and most importantly, in the beginning as you learn how to use these excellent, time honoured approaches regularly in your every day life.

All you really need to do is to REDUCE THE LEVELS OF ADRENALINE in your system to feel better, think more clearly, sleep better and get all the benefits of more self confidence in many different situations.

Focus on that and do the best you can; take GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF and you will get the benefits in the end.

Anti-Anxiety Pattern © Silvia Hartmann from http://SilviaHartmann.com

All Rights Reserved 2004

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First, I want to say a word of gratefulness to our Hawiian relatives for reminding us that  everything outside of us exists as a projection from inside.  “I Am Responsible for My Experience”.  Dr. Lin proved this theory in his work with prisoners

In these times of deInception, disEase, and disEnchantment staying in balance is not easy.   So much that appears to be outside of ourselves is attempting to knock us off balance.  Most of us were feeling the happiness vibe of spring, renewal and healing just as the Boston tragedy occured.  Now, what I see in postes is anger, disbelief, distrust and sadness.

Now is the time to be in balance for so many reasons – too many to name – and all of which you already know.  It is when you are out of balance that the darkness filters in. Stay in balance.  Meditate, raise your vibration, love, love and love…

Taking full responsibility for whatever I perceive as a ‘problem’ makes it possible for me to resolve it. It’s much easier to make changes inside of myself than try to change another. If it’s someone else’s responsibility, then I have to wait for them to change their ways or do something to somehow deal with it and I could be waiting a long time!   Or I can understand how I am responsible for all that I experience…, and that I’ve ‘hired’ this person to play their part the way they have and that I am able to do something about it. However as with any forgiveness practice, a healing of what has been hurt in me is necessary before I can truly and congruently forgive the perpetrator. Otherwise the hurt part can easily be overlooked and remain unconsciously hurting, making my ‘forgiveness’ incongruent, and therefore ineffective.

Once I have healed what was hurt in me (the second movement in The Three Movements of Healing), Ho’oponopono can make the rest quite easy. Would you consider taking the time to focus on those that have suffered and those that caused it?   If you can’t do that, then consider visualizing the person you want to forgive (or just connect with in a more positive way).  You then say four statements to them in your mind’s voice, “I am sorry.” “Please forgive me.” “Thank you.” And, “I love you.”

I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

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Just speaking of a small part of you now.  The part of you that is in the 3D physical shell that you inhabit.  The part of you that came to this planet how every many years, months, days, minutes and seconds ago through the portal of your mother’s cervix.  Let’s call it “George”.  

When George began the journey from a single cell to a body of bazillions of cells, he found himself floating in a sea of fluids.  As he floated there inside his mother’s womb, listening to the sounds all around him, listening to the heartbeat of his mother.  Listening to her thoughts – which included her fears, her pain, her happiness that were not only related to George, but to everything around her.  And, as a kinesthetic being George’s tiny body, however many cells he had at the time, was also reacting and connecting to the mother’s body sensations in response to her world. 

George learned how to breathe, how to sense and interpret and how to react to everything around him… because until the womb released him, he and she were of the same organism.  

Then the big push came and George emerged from her body into the outside world and began that experience.  The experience of a human being.  From the very beginning George learned that he was at the mercy of his surroundings.  No longer was he incased in warm fluids floating and observing.  Now, he was immersed in a world where he was dependent on others to feed him, to provide warmth, to dress him, to nurture him and most importantly – to protect him.  

If George was very lucky, he was honored, loved, coddled, protected and adored.  If he was not, then….  Well, in that case, there is so much to say that I am not sure there is room here today.  

Let’s talk about the George that was loved, coddled, protected and adored.  That is so much more pleasant.     

Let’s assume that George had caregivers, whether blood parents or chosen parents, that loved and adored him. He was listened to and everything that he did was considered “cute”, “adorable” or “so smart!”.  George’s parents provided clothes that fit and were accepted by his peers.  And, when those no longer fit they chose new ones for him.  George’s parents provided him with a kaleidoscope of experiences from the circus, zoo, lakes, art, movies to outings with the extended family.  They encouraged him when he was unsure and when he had done something good..  

These parents did everything right.  Right?  So, how the heck did George turn out to be someone who can’t hold a job down or have a decent, lasting relationship?       

It’s easy.   Programming.  Family and community programming is so subtle, so easy that it’s often totally overlooked.  

Say this child of the perfect family overhears a conversation one night between the parents that goes something like this “Father:  My company is closing in 3 days.  What are we doing to do?  We will never be able to pay the mortgage on day jobs.  You are going to have to find work outside of the home now.  I can’t do this by myself any longer. You are going to have to give up your weekly hair salon appointments and counselor sessions.  George is going to have to go to a public school.  We’re ruined!  Our whole lives are going to change now because of the economy!  We are doomed!” 

I am not going to recount what the mother might have said in reply.   And, it doesn’t matter that the company didn’t close and that their lives really never changed.  What matters is in that second or overhearing that conversation, George learned several important things (programs).  

He learned that no one is safe.  He learned that going to a public school was a bad thing.  He learned that his mother was going to have to make sacrifices and carry her weight in the family (as if she didn’t before – but he is being led to believe that she didn’t).  And, but not least, he learned that the economy decides your fate and your ultimate doom.  

As George grows up he has standards of choice.  His first standard is that he must always have money in case something bad happens.  His second standard is that his isn’t going to be the kind of woman that is pampered. She’s going to have to work just as he does.  His third standard is a “no frills” rule.  Should I go on?  

Okay, we’ll change directions for a minute.  Imagine George sitting in a lobby waiting for a friend.  There is a weekend guide there on the table.  As George flips through the guide he begins to see a trend.  It seems that during the month there are numerous “self-help” workshops being offered.  What do they all have in common?  They all promise to erase negative programming and make you more self-confident. George scoffs at the ads as he mumbles to himself “why would I need that.  I come from money.  I don’t have any problems.  My life is fantastic.”   Guess again George.  

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How do I love thee – let me count the ways…..

Wow, true love.  Enduring love.  Love that happens without judgment.  The forever love.

How often does that happen?  It can happen!  I know people!  Really.  Just the other day… oh, wait they are divorced now.  Okay, so it happens occasionally.  I have that kind of love.  Even though we parted after 5 years and came back together 26 years later and after 8 years we haven’t killed each other, yet.  That’s an accomplishment, right?  Just kidding.  I am blessed to have found, after 26 years of kissing many frogs, to have been reunited with my king.  Most days he treats me like a queen.  Some days I am the servant girl.  It all works out.

What about when it didn’t happen? How many times have you had your heart broken because you extended it out in all good faith, loaned it or completely gave it way, only to have the person stomp on it, treat it like a piece of garbage or completely dismiss it?

How If you are 9, the chances are slim unless you are from an abusive home.

But, if you are 50, the chances are really high beginning with your first “true love” in elementary school, to the first crush, the first kiss, the prom, the guy at work, the person you met at the bus station, the married man who didn’t tell you he was married, etc… the list goes on and on.  Wow – that was depressing!  Quickly moving on…

Now, have many times have you been in relationship then saw something prettier, shinier, richer, more interesting – and the guy was on the losing end of the deal?

Okay, so the women’s side of the list was longer and more dramatic.  So, sue me – I’m a woman and it really is all about us, right?  We are, after all the weaker sex, right?  So fragile, to be protected and guided by the elbow in the right direction because we can’t find it on our own.

Sorry, I got dramatic again.  And, I admit that I tend to ramble.

I’ll try to keep it to a minimum and let you get through this article without any damage.

Okay my loves.  This is the jest of it; No one can hurt you.  Really.  Think about it.  We are infinite beings with infinite consciousness, infinite strength, and infinite possibilities.

How many women have you known that have raised their children without a husband?  How many women have you known that have battled cancer, addictions, mental health and it only makes them stronger?  We are very resilient creatures.

God created us with a purpose.  The purpose was to be conscious.  Are you conscious?   Are you at the whim of other people’s reactions, judgments, intentions?  Or are you of strong conviction to yourself?

“This above all: to thine own self be true”.  Okay, so the rest of the script wasn’t that interesting, but those 9 words are very prophetic, aren’t they?

Gather yourself up.  Take stock on who you are, where you have been, where you are going.   Don’t just be satisfied with existing everyday.

Get up in the morning; greet your relatives that live with you. Look in the mirror and greet the most beautiful, beloved being of light that you have ever been blessed to see.  Go outside and greet your relatives that live outside your home during the day – in your gardens, in your neighborhood.  Greet the sun and thank him for all that he does to heal you and assist you in seeing those things that are in plain sight but that you dismiss or ignore.  At night, go outside and greet the moon and thank her for providing light at night so that you can see through the darkness and see those things that others might try to hide from you.  Greet those relatives who live outside your home that only come out at night.

Unconditional love – you are the only being on the planet or in the universe that can love you unconditionally… well, except Creator and the mother.  But, you know what I mean.

Celebrate yourself.  Walk tall, proud and with confidence that you are an infinite being of light created to shine!  They should be busy loving and honoring themselves.  And, it’s a special blessing when you can come together with another infinite being and share that light.  Everyone else is just here for your company and entertainment.  Love them as you would love yourself; hopefully, without judgment and without conditions.  Another important quote “First, do no harm”….

Have you ever been in a situation where someone stopped talking to you because you said something that they didn't agree with?  Then they told the story over and over to anyone who would listen?  Then they would "slam" you ever chance they got?  And, no matter what you did, what you said they just threw as many hateful thoughts at you as they possibly could?  It's exhausting to think about it.  What's worse is what you know their holding to the anger is doing to their body.
Should you care?  Really?  What can you do about it?  Nothing really.
If the anger is driving them in some way, there is nothing you can do to minimize it.  You do have to wonder what drives a person to hold onto such a destructive force?
Do they hate themselves more than they hate you?  Do they want to punish themselves so much that they hired you to make them so mad that they had an excuse for hurting themselves.  Because, really... how much is it hurting you, or are you standing back watching this thinking to yourself, "What an idiot. I've forgiven them for much worse."
You wouldn't believe, or maybe you will, how many people I treat or coach every day that the root problem is anger, grief, resentment or fear.   Those are all silent killers.  Of course, we don't think about that when we are in the middle of the vibration.  Most people can't see past the energy of anger.   And, they wonder why they are sick or can't move forward in their lives.
One word "Forgiveness" is the key to a healthy, happy life.
You don't have to forget who or what you feel hurt you.  Forgiveness may save your life, though.
Did you know that holding onto anger, resentment and blame has the possibility of creating so many health issues such as stomach problems, high blood pressure, anxiety, heart attacks/problems, even cancer?   There are studies on it!  Really.
Did you know that just the action of "being pissed off" creates havoc with your kidneys?
And, did you know that telling the same old tired stories of how someone screwed up your life or screwed over you just keeps that sick energy going?  What's the purpose of it?
Let it go, please.  Just realize that no one is responsible for you, for your life, for taking care of you or cleaning up after you - but YOU.  The only person who can screw up your life is YOU.  And, in the same light - the only person who can change your life for the better is YOU...  It really is all about you and what YOU do with YOUR life.
There are many ways of freeing yourself from that anger that don't even include speaking to the person.
Here are a few:
  1. Imagine them standing or sitting in front of you.  Tell them what they have done that you feel was hurtful.  Get it all out... rage at them if you have to.  Let it all go.
  2. Write the person a letter.  You never have to mail it even.  You can burn or bury it with the symbolism of letting it go.
  3. Draw or paint your impression of the situation, with full color. Again, you can bury it or burn it but please don't hang on to it - no matter how cool you think it turned out.
  4. Get in your car, get on the freeway (not during rush hour) and scream it out.  No one can hear you in the car on a freeway.....  and you can say all the ugly things you might not ever say in person.  Rage, scream, cry until you have said all that is to be said on the subject.
  5. Last but not leastly... and my favorite, of course is to use emotional tranceformation:  Think about the person, where do you feel them in your body, soften and flow until the energy finds it's appropriate exit from your body.  Bring them back up again.  Where's the energy now, soften and flow, etc.  Bring them up one last time, where's the energy now and is it less or does it come in and flow right back out.  Then imagine the situation that has caused you so much anger... where do you feel that in your body, soften and flow, etc, doing that atleast three times as well or until the energy comes in and flows back out quickly.   If that doesn't work - email me at patricia@its-about-energy.com
    See how powerful you are?  What will you do with all that power - good or bad?

Someone asked me recently about how one can afford to go to all these seminars, workshops, retreats, webinars, etc.   That’s an excellent question that has me processing the same thing every time I get notices in the mail.

One could easily spend their paycheck every week attending the many options for learning, growing and healing.  And, if I could I probably would but then there is the consideration of food, gas, rent and necessities.   What do I spend my money on?  What is most important to me?

There are those that say “I don’t have any money – I am broke – I can’t afford to come to your workshop” then they will go to the beauty shop get a cut and color or have a manicure or massage.   Or they take a vacation for a week.  Or perhaps they go shopping and spend $300 on clothes.  Or they will go out and eat several times that week or to a movie.   Or perhaps they will get Starbucks every day.   Or perhaps they will go to the bookstore or music store and spend an easy $75.

I am not saying any of those things are not important.  The truth is – it’s your money and you have the right to spend in on anything you want to.  That’s the key, isn’t it?  “On anything you want to”  So, when people tell me that they can’t afford something are they really saying “this isn’t what I want to spend my money on right now”?

If you add up everything that you spent during the week on things that were outside of survival, how much would it be?  I know that I have spent $300 easy on things that weren’t really necessary and some of them I never used.

There are those that will say “I know that I want to do this for myself so I will make some adjustments in my spending this week”.  And, perhaps they will bring their lunch every day and wait till the next check for the cut, massage, manicure, etc.

I will tell you this – I am the same procrastinator as many.  What I have noticed about myself, though, is that if the workshop (or whatever) is important enough to me I always manage to manifest the extra money even if it means not doing something else that I wanted to do.

I have probably spent $5,000 in just the last year on alternative healing seminars, conferences, workshops, books, dvd’s and audios.  I could have chosen to spend that elsewhere, but it was important to my healing and growth and so I gladly spent the money.    It’s not that I had an extra $5,000.  It is that I found a way to manifest it whether it was working extra jobs or cutting out something else.   There were times that I searched my bookshelves and found books that I no longer cared about and listed them on Amazon to earn some extra cash.   Or I manifested some extra clients to earn money.

This is the way I look at it.  Is it something that calls to me?  Is it something that will enhance my life?  Does the facilitator offering this information know their business?  Would I be getting my money’s worth?  After all, if I have spent that amount of money and time growing my skill as an alternative healer and teacher and I offer that information to others, should they not be willing to pay for that quality of service and information just as I did?  And, if you are resentful of paying them the fee they ask for, how receptive are you going to be to what they offer?  Will you be so closed up that you don’t receive any healing or information and come away saying “well, that was a waste of money!”?

Which brings up another thought:   If you pay the ridiculous rate of $1,500 for a class that would offer your certification to treat and/or teach others , would you be getting your money’s worth?    Let’s do the math, you pay $1,500 for the course, then you turn around and charge $1,500 for the same course with 10 participants 1 time.   What about the rest of the year, the rest of your life?  How much profit do you think you might have made on your investment?  Was it worth it?

And, what about healing?   What about those who complain about a therapist prices?  What is the difference in someone who charges $40 and someone who charges $750?   Sometimes it is quality of education, experience and range of services.  Sometimes it is about an elevated ego and there is no difference.  Sometimes it is about a deflated ego and in that case even if the person has extended education and experience you would not get the same quality of service because they don’t feel that they are “worth it”.

Am I talking in circles?  Most likely.   There is no clear cut answer to these questions.  It’s all about vibrations.   Who do you resonate with?  What course, class, seminar, etc, do you resonate with?  What or who do you feel comfortable spending money with?    Because if you don’t pay the fees with a clear understanding then you will not be receptive of what is offered.  Whose fault is that?

Hello everyone.  I’ve missed you!  You must be really busy.  Busy is great.  Movement is great.  Flowing is greater.

So, I was thinking this morning about flow.  There are a trillion healing modalities out there and a handful of them are considered “self-help”.

How many of you would rather someone else fix you then do the work yourself?

Let me ask you a simple question……  who knows you better, someone else or you?  Ooopppsss.  That depends, right?  It depends on whether or not you have given your “power” over to other people.  It depends on whether or not you have disconnected from your body.

How many times have you said you are just “numb” or you’re too tired to “feel”.  And, how many times have you gone to a medical doctor, alternative healer or energy worker and said “just fix it” because you thought it was easier than doing the work yourself.

Really, to do the work yourself you would have to actually look at the problem – and O.M.G. you might have to actually connect to your body and feel what it is feeling!  Okay, so it might be more appealing under those circumstances to go to someone else and give your life over to them and tell them to fix you.  Only, no one else can fix you my love.

You’re it.  They can aleviate some of your “symptoms”.  They can ease your mind.  They can give you nurturing and comfort which make you feel better about yourself for a while.  But, they can’t “fix” you and so whatever the issue was will return at some point because it has never gone away it’s only been numbed.  At some point it will creep/seep back up to the surface of your consciousness.

Someone commented to me recently that “if you ever have cancer it will always come back”.   That brought up a lot of anger for me mostly because not only have I had a bought with cancer, but I have  loved ones who are in “remission”.   In some ways what they said was absolutely true.  In some ways it was a lie.

It is a common belief that all disease originated from an emotion, a belief, a programming or a judgement, thus the change from disease to dis-ease.  So, if that is true; then if you have not dealt with the origin of the dis-ease, then it is still there.  How do you feel about that?   I, personally, believe that when you deal with the emotional origin you have dealt with the dis-ease.

There are books that talk about the origin of dis-ease and illness and how they are connected to an emotion.   Louise Hay wrote a book called “You Can Heal Your Life”.  Cancer would indicate that something was eating away at you.  Often cancer is associated with anger, but it can also stem from grief, as in the loss of a loved one.  The location of the cancer is a good clue.  Pancreatic cancer might indicate grief, while liver cancer might point to anger.  However, pancreatic cancer could also indicate anger associated with sadness, as in the case where a best friend ran off with a spouse.   I personally know someone who had stomach cancer and had dealt with years and years of repressed anger regarding a cheating spouse.  You could say she was “eaten up with anger and resentment”.

You could try eft – there are a bizillion youtubes giving instructions.  And, Emotional Tranceformation (EmoTrance) is marvelous really.  Whenever you feel the emotions welling up, focus in on where you feel that in your body… then say to yourself (silent or outloud) “soften and flow” not putting any emphasis on any of it… just say the words and see what happens.

You will probably notice that the energy/feeling has moved to another part of your body.  Focus there and say again “soften and flow” and just keep doing that until you feel it leave your body.  You can take it further or you can just enjoy the relief.

If you want to take it further, try to bring back up the emotion, find it in your body again and go through the soften and flow protocol.

You will probably find that the emotional charge is less or maybe you noticed it in a different part of your body this time and it didn’t go through as many places before it left.  If when you say “soften and flow” and it doesn’t move – try saying “soften and flow, where does the energy want to go.  Go there now” and see what happens.  It sounds crazy, but the method is very effective.

If you don’t “feel” anything at all when you think of the situation or issue, then think of where you might feel it in your body if you could such as if you are angry at someone you might get a headache, so the energy would be felt in your head.  Or if someone said something that was really hurtful to you, you might feel as though you’ve been kicked in the stomach.  That is where the energy is felt, in the stomach.

So, play with that and let me know if it brings you any relief.   When you feel that anxiety attack welling up just stop and stay “soften and flow”…. see what happens.

If you need some coaching or advice on using EmoTrance, please contact me.   If you would like, there is a free e-book that I can share with you.  Let me know.   It was a real eyeopener for me and what caused me to become a trainer of this healing modality called EmoTrance.