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Anxiety Self Help Treatment Made Easy

What Is Anxiety?

Anxiety – A few simple facts

Anxiety is a form of fear that happens as a result of thoughts, rather than because of real immediate danger in the present environment.

People, unlike animals, can cause ADRENALINE to be produced in their own bodies in DIRECT RESPONSE TO a thought.

Because the thought and the environment are not the same (as it would be for a zebra which spots a lion), the action requisite to get rid of the adrenaline in the system doesn’t happen (the zebra starts to run, which is why it needs the adrenaline shock injection in the first place!).

What happens in people is that they don’t get rid of the adrenaline, so it  builds up, and up – causing MORE thoughts which in turn trigger MORE adrenaline releases.

Symptoms Of Anxiety

Too much adrenaline in the body causes ALL the symptoms anxiety sufferers are so familiar with:

  • The typical changes in the heart rate associated with anxiety;
  • Body sensations like dry mouth and throat, trembling (like in shakey handwriting), sweating, flushing, chest pains and tightness in the chest, being unable to breathe properly;
  • Racing thoughts that spin out of control; paranoia and hallucinations;
  • Headaches (stress headaches, anxiety headaches), migraines;
  • Vision disturbances, dizzyness, inability to see things clearly or to interpret what is being seen correctly (like dyslexia or totally failing to make sense of numbers, maths, symbols, maps, etc.);
  • Digestive problems as digestion is shut down or reduced during adrenaline outbursts;
  • Eating problems such as sugar cravings (insulin reduces adrenaline in the blood), hunger pangs, and also loss of appetite on the other hand;
  • Hypervigilance or becoming overly sensitive to all sorts of sounds, sights, touches, tastes and smells;
  • Failure to be able to concentrate on the here-and-now, functional failures (performance anxiety) like clumsiness, erection problems, “blocks” (to writing, public speaking, social skills, learning etc. etc), forgetfulness;
  • Inability to focus on others, making good connections with others, attuning or relating to others;
  • Sleep disturbances, trouble getting to sleep, sleeping badly, feeling tired and worn out as a result – which makes all of the above even worse;

… and that is just the tip of the iceberg.

Anxiety, in contrast to natural fear, is thereby a PHYSIOLOGICAL state of a body that is too full of adrenaline, and the mental or psychological problems and the behaviour problems and performance problems normally associated with high stress and anxiety are just a RESULT of that underlying problem.

Who suffers from anxiety?

People who have already a build up of adrenaline in their bodies have nowhere to go when a frightening thought strikes – their adrenaline levels spike into the red immediately and the longer they stay there, the worse all the symptoms of their anxiety will become, physical, mental and emotional.

This is the same for a stressed and anxious child and baby as it is for adults. It is structural, human and entirely logical.

Any human who is stressed for too long, or has been stressed repeatedly severely (in war, bullying, abusive relationship), or is unable to escape an ongoing stressful environment (family, school, prison, army, work) will eventually show the symptoms of anxiety, some or many of them, depending on how severe the stress is they have been under, and for how long it has been going on.

The highest end and last-ditch “emergency defense” of high anxiety is to have a panic attack. The systems in the body (and mind, and energy system) become so chaotic that “something has to give”. Panic attacks are “nature’s restart button” on a computer that is blue screening.

Is anxiety genetic?

A child reared by anxious parents will naturally be more anxious than a child reared by non-anxious parents. Although genetics may play a small part, environment and HOW this is being responded to is much, much more important than genetics.

Stressed and anxious people create a stressful atmosphere AROUND them, and those who look to their leadership for security (children with parents, workers with managers, soldiers with officers, students with teachers etc.) will likewise experience far more stress than if their leader or responsible adult was calmer and more in control of their environments.

It is far more important to remove excess stress hormones from the body quickly and as soon as possible than to wonder if there are any genetic components to being affected this way.

In other words, anxiety or adrenalin allergy is absolutely curable and at the very least, it can be MARKEDLY REDUCED.

What is the difference between social anxiety, separation anxiety, performance anxiety?

The only difference between any appearance of the symptoms of anxiety, regardless if this is a maths anxiety, sexual or social anxiety, an anxiety about dogs and cats, jury duty, test anxiety, or public speaking is the TRIGGER which causes the adrenaline spikes to go into the red.

It is important to understand that WHAT the trigger is doesn’t mean ANYTHING about a person who suffers from anxiety disorders and their symptoms – the problem is ALWAYS that there is already a high underlying level of adrenaline rushing around their systems when they meet the trigger. They have nowhere to go, the adrenaline spikes go into the red and that’s when the flare up happens.

Just as people can become accidentally phobic of just about anything at all, they can become extremely anxious about anything at all – this has little or nothing to do with REAL danger or any logical reasons and is mostly simply accidental.

New effective tools for coping with anxiety

Ideally, we don’t want to think of “coping” with it, but to remove the problem and all the many symptoms altogether and get a HEALTHY ADRENALINE SYSTEM back into action.

In order to do this, systematic desensitisation is NOT a good option because we want to ELIMINATE THE FEAR RESPONSES, rather than to get used to more and more pain as we go on.

  • It is extremely important to remove excess adrenaline from our bodies as soon as possible, because serious, very serious long term health damage is the risk here, not to speak of the incredible psychological damage to self esteem, happiness, fulfilment and joy in life which is being caused by the adrenaline allergy systems.

Someone who suffers from severe stress or anxiety is often very likely to view the future bleakly, feel themselves out of control and unable to achieve anything meaningful at all.

They have to cope with many physical and psychological symptoms, problems with substances, addiction and all sorts of limiting behaviours which naturally leads to becoming very depressed.

Stimulating, exciting, exhilarating, new and challenging events become rare in their lives because these would trigger the adrenaline spikes with their awful symptoms, so with so much fear and so little joy every day, it is no wonder that many people who suffer from anxiety symptoms and disorders get very, very depressed and unhappy on top of it all.

A Two Part Approach To End Anxiety Problems

When we consider any anxiety related disorder to be nothing more than an adrenalin allergy, we can know right away that the right methods of treating anxiety come in two parts.

  • 1. A treatment for the high anxiety situations.

The high spikes of heavy adrenaline shots into an already overstressed system cause the most serious problems of them all, and so it is very, very natural and even extremely HEALTHY for any individual to AVOID situations which could cause these.

As anxieties can flare up at any time, become triggered by all sorts of environments and all kinds of thoughts and memories, the only real possibility of total avoidance is an absolute withdrawal from life – or death in other words. It is sad to consider that there were people who took that option, simply because they could not live with their anxiety/depression/ill health spirals any longer.

The natural and effective treatments for anxiety, or rather, for the adrenaline problems in the body which CAUSE the anxiety, is the same as what is needed for the second, and even more important aspect of people who suffer from adrenaline allergies, namely:

  • 2. To reduce dramatically the BASE LEVELS OF STRESS they are under all the time.

This is the key to treating the adrenaline problems in the first place.

When we start with a baseline of a lot less anxiety, there is more room for real things to come in WITHOUT causing the dreaded anxiety spikes as the systems goes into the red, and thoughts spiral out of control, physical symptoms occur and behaviour and life falls apart.

This is a two pronged approach which will make a TREMENDOUS difference, especially in the long term, to anyone’s levels of health, happiness and self esteem.

A Self Help Treatment Programme For Ending Anxiety

The very first rule:

STOP berating YOURSELF for suffering from an adrenaline allergy.

It is NOT your fault.

These things just happen in our society and the way we live, it is INCREDIBLY common and you KNOW just about everyone is “stressed out” most of the time.

The fact that you are afraid doesn’t mean ANYTHING about you – you’re not a coward, you don’t suffer from having “no will power” and there’s actually, nothing wrong with you at all. You are responding to YOUR situations EXACTLY like someone would who was in YOUR situation, and who happens to be – YOU.

  • Instead, stop for a moment and think how LUCKY you are to have found out about this in a way that can NOT be ignored, and so you are forced to sort this NOW, rather than spending your entire life running around in circles, never getting to experience what you really longed for, and then dying of a stroke or a heart attack a few years after you’ve “retired”.

I am completely serious about this.

Adrenalin allergies are DEATHLY in every way, and I am incredibly glad that you will be spared the breakdowns of your health and happiness simply because you have really learned what this is, and you have a really good motivation to sort it out, once and for all.

The outcome of this programme is that you should become actually a happier, braver, MORE efficient and proactive person than those you are looking at right now and thinking that they’ve got it all sussed. “They” don’t. They just don’t know it like you and I do, and they will pay the price in many ways for not dealing with their “stress” here and now.

The Core Anxiety Treatment

This is really simple and easy, and involves a special version of an Energy Therapies self help programme which is vaguely related to acupuncture, only you can do it with your own hands and fingertips instead, and it works not just on the body, but on the mind, on your emotions and on your thoughts, all together and all at the same time.

Our thoughts and our energy system (which is being treated in for example, acupuncture, acupressure, faith healing, energy healing, Reiki, meditation, Karate, Yoga, and many, many more likewise powerful and practical techniques) are LINKED.

  • When we think disturbing thoughts, our energy system becomes disturbed IMMEDIATELY – and that is what causes the adrenaline injections straight into our physical bodies.

Likewise, when our energy system runs calm an clear, our thoughts can’t help but run calm and clear also.

The energy body and thought are one and the same, and the state of one reflects the state of the other.

In this way, thoughts don’t impact the body directly, but VIA THE CONNECTOR of the energy system.

  • We might not be able to control our thoughts or calm them with ease, but we CAN CALM THE ENERGY SYSTEM and then the thoughts follow as they must.

This is the key to reducing the amount of adrenaline in our systems.

This is the key to being able to calm ourselves right down, so we get to sleep properly again, eat properly again, feel strong and healthy, and can handle surprise and the daily shocks of living easily as we flow swiftly from one experience to the other, like the weather changes outside as it must so the planet remains healthy.

Heart Healing

The most important energy system “organ” is the energy heart – this is the nuclear reactor at the center of the energy system. It powers all of the energy system and is intricately linked to every part of us – thought, physical body, meridians, the lot.

  • Get the Heart stabilised, and ALL YOUR SYSTEMS will be stronger, more powerful and work better.

People still pray and meditate to achieve “peace of mind” which is the same as “peace of energy system”.

We are going to use this oldest of techniques as a general anxiety and adrenaline remover prescription, at least 3x a day, EVERY DAY, as our central stabilisation process.

Healing The Heart, Heart Healing, Herzheilen Logo

Place both hands on your heart of energy.

  • Close your eyes and feel your hands.
  • Move the hand closest to your chest very lightly in a circle and take seven deep breaths in and out, counting down on the out breath aloud:
  • 7
  • 6
  • 5
  • 4
  • 3
  • 2
  • 1
  • 0

On Zero, open your eyes and continue with your day.

This takes only a minute but it gives your body a break, like a miniature holiday. Three such little holidays EVERY DAY will begin to take off some of the accumulated adrenaline and reduce your overall stress levels for the sake of 3 x 1 minute spend.

  • Do this regularly and you will find that it becomes EASIER AND EASIER to slow down, to calm down.

With practice, this simple gesture becomes a stabilisation ritual in moments of crisis as well.

Real Energy Body Healing

This next treatment is more specific and deals with the worst places where you can feel the physical results of your anxiety the most.

This is a real feeling in the body. For some it is the head; for others it is the throat, for others yet again, it can be chest, or stomach. Some people’s hands or feet get very cold.

You know where you feel it FIRST and when you feel THAT body sensation (not an imagination or a thought, a real physical feeling!), your stress is already at dangerous levels.

Meridian Re-Balancing Full Treatment For Stress & Anxiety

Your thoughts, your energy system and your body are ONE system, so by treating our energy system and using our thoughts to “call off the emergency” we get the body to calm down and follow suit – the result is that the adrenaline slowly disappears and with it, the anxiety melts away.

When that happens, our thoughts become clearer as well and not only do we FEEL better, we can THINK and ACT better, too.

Example: Anxiety Symptom: Shakey Handwriting

Under stress, Tony, a student, would experience trembling from anxiety which would cause his hands to shake minutely and produce ragged, untidy and shakey handwriting. When he thought about it, he felt the first symptoms to know it was coming not in his hands but in his back and neck which would go “rock hard and solid, nearly painful”. The shaking would follow soon after.

This is a classic example of how a part of the energy system, in this case located in Tony’s back and shoulders, locked up and stopped the smooth flow of energy into his hands.

To treat this, Tony sat down at his writing desk and looked at something that he had written which was very shakey to bring on the symptoms of anxiety, in his case the locking up in his neck and shoulders.

Then he began the meridian balancing treatment, breathing in and out deeply on each meridian point and saying out aloud, “I want to repair that blockage in my neck, soften and flow.”

Halfway through the session he could feel the blockage softening and “running down his arms, back and shoulders like warm water”. As soon as this happened, he also took a big sigh of relief, that turned nearly into a yawn.

When the session was finished, he felt calm and clear and the work itself did no longer frighten him.

Here is how to do the full meridian balancing treatment, step by step.

1. Find the place in your body that shows your anxiety the most. That is where the energy blockage lies which stops on the physical level the adrenalin from dispersing properly and flowing away.

2. Focus on that place, put your hands on your heart in the Heart Healing posture.

Say out aloud, “I want to repair this blockage (and then name where it is, in your stomach, in your head, in your back, in your throat etc.)”

Breathe in and out deeply and then say it again, three times in all.

Remember to breathe in and out deeply each time.

Main Meridian Balancing Points Diagram For Stress & Anxiety Self Help Protocol3. Now place two fingers on the following points, one after the other.

– Make a tiny circle with your fingertips there.

– Breathe in and out deeply.

– Say, “I want to repair this blockage in my (…)

– Breathe in and out deeply.

Then move on to the next point and do it again.

4. Finish once more in the Heart Healing position with three deep breaths in and out, but don’t say the statement again.

This time listen in to yourself to find out how calm you are now.

If you wish, you can repeat the treatment up to three times.

Super Quick Treatment for Anxious Thoughts and Every Day

People who suffer from anxiety induced by an adrenalin allergy experience adrenaline shots or “spikes” at many times during the day. As soon as this happens, we need to treat it right away, there and then, with the following quick meridian clearer.

Stress & Anxiety Self Help Diagram - Under Eye Tap

  • Here, we tap rhythmically on the meridian points under the eye, switching from side to side, and simply think or say, “Adrenalin allergy” until we can take a sigh of relief which is our sign that the tension and the adrenalin is receding.

NB: Don’t wait for big spikes to happen and before you are really anxious.

Use this super quick treatment immediately and as soon as you notice the “spike” has occurred.

You can do this anywhere, even in public, and in conjunction with the other treatments, it is quickly effective and PREVENTS THE OVERALL BUILD UP that causes the real deep anxiety in the end.

So it is very important to treat yourself right away when you are noticing a spike:

  • Whilst watching TV (movies AND news, and anything else that makes you anxious, even an advertisement can!)
  • In traffic or whilst driving (you only need one hand)
  • Out and about when shopping, or even before you leave the house and think about going out;
  • In school and exam situations;
  • When dealing with mail, or whilst on the telephone;
  • In social situations where you notice an anxiety spike.

Example: Social Anxiety

Kathy, a high school student, was extremely anxious of social situations such as parties but also had a hard time with being by herself in the library, or walking into the dining hall. She had been doing the full treatments for about a week when an important party came up and she decided to go.

She had to treat herself with the full treatment at the thought once, then the quick treatment was sufficient to help her decide what to wear, to get her dressed, made up, out of the house and during the travel to the venue.

When she arrived at the venue, she became very anxious, went to the ladies room and treated herself there, especially concentrating on her lower abdomen, which felt extremely hot and painful. This settled her enough to be able to rejoin the party, and she was able to stay and even talk and dance a little with the help of a few surreptitious taps under her eye.

She was delighted with her progress and now is actively looking forward to a class picnic “so I can practice until I feel really comfortable all the time, and this awful anxiety is finally behind me!”

In Conclusion:

The above protocols are tried and tested with many, many people and help significantly reduce overall levels of anxiety, even for people who suffer from chronic anxiety and have done so for a long time.

Please USE these ideas and especially, TAKE NOTICE of how you feel, all the time and most importantly, in the beginning as you learn how to use these excellent, time honoured approaches regularly in your every day life.

All you really need to do is to REDUCE THE LEVELS OF ADRENALINE in your system to feel better, think more clearly, sleep better and get all the benefits of more self confidence in many different situations.

Focus on that and do the best you can; take GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF and you will get the benefits in the end.

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Control of Emotions & Feelings – The 5 Top Tips

by Silvia Hartmann

Control of Emotions & Feelings - The 5 Top TipsHere are Dr Hartmann’s top 5 tips for how to control emotions and feelings successfully – yes, you CAN learn to control your emotions and master your feelings, it’s not even difficult – you just need to know how.

Control of Emotions & Feelings – The 5 Top Tips

by Dr Silvia Hartmann

1 – Don’t be afraid of your emotions and feelings!

The first step to control anything at all is to not be afraid of it. That goes for you wife, your dog, and of course, for your emotions and feelings too!

UNDERSTAND that emotions and feelings are simply feedback devices that let you know how your energy system is doing, by giving you BODY SENSATIONS that we call “feelings”.

Yes, feelings can hurt, Yes, if you don’t know that they come from the energy body they seem random, inexplicable and scary. But once you know emotions and feelings for what they are, simple feedback devices, you can stop being afraid of your emotions and feelings and take a totally different tack to trying to control them.


This is super-important. Most people who were scared of their emotions tried to switch off the body feelings of rising anxiety in the stomach, chest or throat; tightness in the back of the neck; trembling in the hands, and all the body sensations that *are* what we call emotions.

Instead of ignoring these feelings in the body, start to learn WHEN AND HOW it happens that you start to FEEL tight, hot, nauseous, trembling and so forth.

Pay attention to the signals from your body that are the emotions absolute.

Find out where your worst places are where you feel most of your emotions – for some people its in the head, others feel most of their emotions in their throat, heart, chest or stomach, in their genitals too.

And find out exactly what happens to make those places start feeling uncomfortable or painful, so you know what “triggers you” – looks, letters, certain words, people talking in a certain way, but also thoughts you have yourself and things you say to yourself.

3 – Build Up Your Emotional Immune System

The stronger the energy body is, the more it can fend off triggers that cause painful emotions and feelings.

Make sure you eat well, sleep well and exercise; but the energy body also needs other energy forms to remain healthy.

Attention energy is the most powerful; get people to pay attention to you. People attention is the most powerful, but the unconditional attention from animals and young children, for example, can be extremely healing and stabilising to your energy immune system.

Sucking in energies from nature is also a very powerful boost for your energy system and will help you control your emotions and feelings much more easily.

Things that are rich in energy, resonant and powerful, and including music, works of art, movies, beautiful objects can also nourish your energy system.

4 – Practice Practical Control For Your Emotions & Feelings

The next time you have an emotion or a feeling you want to control, sit down, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Where do I feel this emotion in my body?”

Pay attention and don’t give up too easily. Even if it feels at first that the emotion is “everywhere” you can ask yourself, “Ok so it’s everwhere – but where is it worst of all? Where is the center?”

Now – and this is really important! – put your hands on that place where you feel the emotions the most.

Breathe deeply and massage that place where you feel the emotion the most.

Say to yourself, say in your mind: “This is only an energy. Soften and Flow!”

Keep breathing and soon you will notice that the feeling begins to “lift”, that it changes, and often that it does indeed, FLOW away – down your arms, out of your legs, down your throat as the energy “knot” that is causing the bad emotion/feeling is beginning to soften up, and proper energy flow is restored.

PRACTICE THIS LOTS OF TIMES so that when serious emotions come your way, or you are in a place where you can’t sit down and do the whole process with your hands, you can just think, “Soften and Flow!” and you can feel the energy starting to dissipate, and with it, your bad emotions and negative feelings.

5 – Learn To Be MORE Emotional

This ties back to No. 1, not being afraid of your emotions.

Because people are so afraid of losing control of their emotions and feelings (because they didn’t know what they were!) people clamp down on emotions and try not to have them.

To get really good at handling emotions, you have to HAVE lots of different emotions, understand them, learn them, be fully comfortable with them.

Like, you could never become a great lion tamer if you never saw a lion, met one, or got one or more to practice on.

Learn to relax that “clamping down” on your emotions and laugh loudly sometimes, shout abuse sometimes, allow yourself to get angry, sad, really happy like a little kid, clapping your hands and jumping up and down.

You can do this locked in your bathroom for privacy if you’re scared of what other people might think; or find places where such behaviour is allowed and encouraged, like in a pub when there is a football match going on; at a funeral, or in a comedy club.

Emotions must FLOW. Then they’re healthy, and often, a really heavy emotion can simply flash through in a split second, leaving you clear and clean and feeling fine.

That takes practice though.

So here are the top tips for controlling your emotions and feelings once more in brief.

  • Don’t be afraid of your emotions, they’re only ongoings in the energy system. “It’s only an energy!”
  • Pay attention to your emotions and your body feelings so you get to know how your emotions work.
  • Build up your energy immune system so you are stronger and less likely to fall apart emotionally.
  • Practice flowing away your emotions and feelings at least once every day. Practice makes perfect!
  • Stop clamping down on your emotions and learn to let them flow fast, through and out again.

And in moments of emotional crisis, remember this:

No matter how it feels, emotions and feelings are really and truthfully


… and that means you can learn to consciously control the flow of that energy, and thereby learn to control your emotions and feelings.

Dr Silvia Hartmann
Creator, EmoTrance
March 2010

Secret Therapy: How To Get Help Without Having To Talk About Your Feelings

Secret Therapy: How To Get Help Without Having To Talk About Your FeelingsOne of the greatest hurdles for people who know they need help with their emotions and feelings is the idea from old fashioned psychotherapy that they have to talk about their problems and tell all. But what if the cause of the problem is a secret that cannot or must not be told?

What if the client is a general, or a high executive, or a leader in general and cannot possibly talk about the problem? Or if the root of the problem simply cannot be talked about for any other reason?

That’s when we have “secret therapy” – doing real, fast, reliable healing on the real causes of the problem without ever having to talk ABOUT any aspect of the problem at all.

Let me give you an example of “secret therapy” with EmoTrance.

Instead of talking and talking without an end, EmoTrance works directly with the feelings in the body that *are* what we call “emotions”. This makes changing the way we feel and healing emotional scars and emotional injuries easy and profound.

So let us say the client in this case is a General who was responsible for making a decision in a war that led directly to great loss of life and was basically, a mistake.

He can’t talk about this to anyone and over time, this is not getting better but worse instead. He has nightmares, can’t sleep, and has recently started to tremble and find that he has breathing difficulties in many different situations, and especially when decisions have to be made. It has further affected his libido, his relationship with his wife and his children, has caused him to lose ground in his beloved sport of golf which always previously came to the rescue, there is no joy in his life left and now on top of everything else, he thinks he might have a heart attack and fail physical exams, being forced to retire early.

He can’t talk about any of these symptoms, because each one would go straight to the underlying cause about which he can’t talk.

So, here he is, on the telephone with an EmoTrance practitioner.

This is how “secret therapy” EmoTrance style would work.

ETP = EmoTrance Practitioner, G = General

ETP: “There is a feeling in your body associated with the problem, something you never felt before, the first time you felt this feeling was when the problem started.

“Where is this feeling in your body? Can you put your free hand on the place where it is and tell me where it is, exactly?”

G: “Yes, I know exactly what you mean. It is a hot feeling that started in the center of my chest, then spreads out all over my body. I thought it was a heart attack at the time.”

ETP: “Ok, that’s very good. Take a deep breath. And another one. Keep your hand on the place where it started, perhaps move it around a little, keep breathing deeply.

“It’s like an energy bomb went off in your energy system on that day the problem started, you felt that, and that’s what’s causing your problems now.”

G: “That makes a lot of sense to me, that’s exactly what it feels like. Can the damage that was done be repaired?”

ETP: “It was a very high energy charge that surged through your systems. What we need to do is to find the right pathways through which this energy has to travel to get out of your systems. It’s easy. Breathe deeply all the while we do this, ok?”

G: “Ok.”

ETP: “Think about the problem, or that moment the problem started for a moment, just enough so you can get the physical feeling back and you can feel it, but not so much it takes you over completely.

“Can you do that?”

G: “Yes …”

ETP: “Pay attention to the physical feelings, what you can feel right now in your body. There is always a feeling of pressure, of something pushing somewhere associated with these. Where does this charge of energy need to go? Up, down, to the sides?”

G: “It feels like trying to push upwards, higher up my chest.”

ETP: “Oh, very good! That’s the pathway it was trying to take, and when it got blocked there, it just exploded all over the place.

“Can you put your hand where it gets blocked, higher up on your chest?”

G: “Doing that now.”

ETP: “Ok, now keep massaging this erea with your hand. Breathe deeply. You work on this blockage from the inside, tell it to soften, and flow, with every out breath, and I work on it too with my intention. This is not a physical blockage, it is only energy, and energy moves when we put our minds to it.

“Breathe deeply, massage it round, think “soften and flow” in your mind.

“What is happening to the feeling now?”

G: “Feels – strange, like there is something expanding, trying to rise up into my throat.”

ETP: “Yes, that’s right, that’s very good – and don’t worry, it is just an energy, you don’t have to speak any words if the energy rises higher and actually leaves your body, it’s only an energy, no-one will hear it …”

G (swallows audibly): “Ok.”

ETP: “Keep encouraging the energy to move upwards with your hands and your intention. Soften and flow.”

G: “It’s going higher …” (starts to cough)

ETP: “Ok, that’s very good indeed. Now we need to find the exit point. All energy channels have an exit point, and once we’ve found that, we’re nearly done. Remember to keep breathing and also use your hand, it’s a healing hand you know.”

G: “Healing hands? Me?”

ETP: “Everyone has healing hands. Just like everyone has an energy system, and emotions, even if they try to ignore it all their lives …”

“How is it going?”

G: “At first I thought the … pressure was going to go out of my mouth, but it is moving higher, into my head now. There is a lot of pressure in my head now …”

ETP: “Yes, you’ve been under an awful lot of pressure. Keep breathing and follow with the movement, the path, of the pressure.

“Where is the exit point?”

G: “I’m not sure, I think it’s on the top of my head …”

ETP: “Soften and flow, it’s only energy …”

G: “Ok, yes, something is happening on my head, like a helmet …”

ETP: “It’s only energy, that’s all, keep encouraging the energy to leave, go out, release the pressure … rub your head, that helps, and move your neck, that helps the energy flow … breathe deeply …”

G: “Oh, yes, yes, that’s better … that’s much better, it really feels now as though there is something flowing out … and my neck is tingling, my arms … strange electric feeling, I can feel it in my legs now …”

ETP:”Very, very good! Keep it going! Let that pressure flow out and move in response to the feelings …”

G: “I feel so much – lighter, as though I had just woken up … have I been asleep all this time? Since it happened?” (A deep sigh is heard, then another)

ETP: “Now think about your problem again, and this time when the feeling starts in the center of your chest, immediately encourage the energy movement up and out to the exit you found on the top of your head.

“Can you do that?”

G: “Yes … oh this is remarkable … the relief … that feels … good, it feels good …”

We leave the session there and let the ETP finish up in privacy; the secret is safe, and the help and healing has happened, and no-one ever needs to know what went on.

The General will learn how to handle the energy movements that cause emotions and then all the other symptoms; and might just have found something that he has been missing in life to help him with emotions in general (no pun intended) and to get a better relationship with his wife, friends and children as a bonus, and a bye the bye.

So, and if you have a secret that you can’t tell anyone about for whatever reason, and you know you need “therapy for your secret” and thought it was impossible to ever get help “unless you told all” – rejoice.

EmoTrance doesn’t need to know. It doesn’t judge. It is a true emotional healing modality that only heals, puts to rights what once went wrong, and helps people evolve beyond their problems.

There may be those who hold that some people don’t deserve to be healed and what they did was so awful that the pain should never be taken away.

Sometimes, the people themselves who hold the secret think that.

This is of course up to each individual; ETPs are healers who heal, and we might say, leave the judgement up to someone who is better placed to do so, God for example.

An addendum: Any half finished energy movements, secrets or not, evil deeds or not, leads to the person only “learning half the lesson”.

It is not until the entire process is complete, that the real lessons have been learned; which is why people often repeat their traumas and don’t seem to learn from their mistakes.

In order to not repeat mistakes of the past, it is of the essence to stop the suffering and complete the lesson. Then the bigger picture emerges, and a person has EVOLVED.

Dr Silvia Hartmann

Author, “Oceans Of Energy”

August 2010

Emotional Honesty Made Easy: How To Be Emotionally Honest In 3 Simple Steps

by Silvia Hartmann

Emotional Honesty Made Easy: How To Be Emotionally Honest In 3 Simple StepsEmotional Honesty is one of those pop psychology terms that can make a person’s life a misery. What is that supposed to mean? How is one supposed to be emotionally honest? Fear not. Here follows a simple explanation and a foolproof 3 step technique to become hardcore emotionally honest with yourself and other people. And it doesn’t even hurt … much …

Emotional Honesty Made Easy

How To Be Emotionally Honest In 3 Simple Steps

by Dr Silvia Hartmann, Author, Oceans Of Energy

Emotional Honesty is one of those pop psychology terms that can make a person’s life a misery. What is that supposed to mean? How is one supposed to be emotionally honest? Fear not. Here follows a simple explanation and a foolproof 3 step technique to become hardcore emotionally honest with yourself and other people. And it doesn’t even hurt … much …

What is Emotional Honesty anyway?!

Folk use the term “emotional honesty” but have only the vaguest idea what they actually mean by that. Generally, the term is used as a kind of weapon against people who have trouble “expressing their emotions” in so many words, and it is extremely unfair and confusing.

So let’s start at the beginning with our 21st Century definition of what emotions are. We have discovered that emotions are movements of energy through the energy body which we can feel in our physical body. Any form of emotion has a physical sensation associated with it, or else we could not “feel” the emotion.

When people are afraid, for example, they feel in their bodies various symptoms and sensations. For example, their hands might grow cold and sweaty; they might feel strong tension in the shoulders and the neck, and a sinking or swirling sensation in their stomach.

  • Those physical feelings are THE REAL EMOTIONS.

Now what happens is that people put a whole load of words over the top of that – I’m upset, I’m terrified, I’m feeling trapped with no way out, I’m feeling like walking on crumbling ice, I am procrastinating, and all sorts ad infinitum.

None of that really helps another person understand “how they are really feeling” and none of that helps a person understand their own emotions, or “achieve emotional honesty”.

So step 1 on our three step journey towards brutal, full, and complete emotional honesty is:

1. Find the feeling in your body!

When the questions is asked, “How do you feel right now?” simply focus on the feelings in your body and find the places where your body feels wrong in some way. Don’t even try to put a word label on how you really feel. Most if not all emotions can’t really be described by “off the shelf” terms such as angry, sad, happy and so forth. The combinations of feelings in the body is like a cocktail with numerous ingredients, and one man’s anger is never the same as another man’s anger.

This is step 2 for emotional honesty:

2. Describe the feeling in your body in the simplest terms possible!

So instead of saying, “I feel trapped,” we would say HONESTLY whatever it feels like, right now. For example, “I feel my throat being tight, and a pressure in my head.”

That’s honest. That’s real. Those are the real emotions at this moment, described as directly and as honestly as one can only describe emotions and feelings.

And now, to the most important step, step 3.

3. Refuse to label these feelings!

One of the unfortunate side effects of a hundred years of pop psychology and talking psychotherapy is that folk have gotten used to talking ABOUT feelings, rather than DEALING WITH THE FEELING.

This leads into a labyrinth of misunderstandings and secondary emotions, confusion, misery, and a total break down in communication!

So when you say, “I feel my throat is tight, and a pressure in my head,” it can happen that the other person, wife or therapist or friend alike, will say, “So you mean you are feeling trapped?”

At which point you must refuse to go down that path and simply re-iterate, “No, I didn’t say that. I said that what I feel, what I honestly feel right now, is a sensation of tightness in my throat, and a pressure in my head.”

This does many things.

Most importantly, it stops the communication descending into some kind of pop therapy argument that no-one can win, no-one can lose, and that doesn’t help anyone.

It forces people who are used to labelling emotions and then making all sorts of meanings out of that into reality, into what there really is – in this case, a person who feels as though they are being strangled and who has a headache! sitting opposite form them.

Instead of going down their usual train-track paths of accusations and ifs, buts, whys and wherefores, they have to start re-thinking the entire situation.

And hopefully, the question will then arise – what we can we do about that?

How can we make that better? How can we make you feel better? How can we make it so that you DON’T feel these uncomfortable feelings in your body under these circumstances?

The answer to that is not more talking either.

Stroking your throat, your head, that might work … Even giving you a cup of coffee would change the situation.

It would honestly change the emotions.

Of course, we use EmoTrance to move energy and make people feel better in the true sense of the word, but simply being “emotionally honest” about what you really feel IN YOUR BODY changes the game of “let’s you and me psychotherapise our relationship to death!” instantly and replaces it with something far more interesting, and far more useful to all concerned.

In the meantime, I encourage you to practice your “emotional honesty” by yourself and with yourself.

Stop every so often and ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?”

Don’t accept word answers like “I’m scared” or “I’m stressed” or “I’m depressed.”

Go further into emotional honesty and take note of what you really feel in your body, and where you feel those feelings.

That’s the truth of how you’re feeling, those are your real emotions.

Once you understand that simple principle and start paying attention to your feelings, you can be a guiding light in emotional honesty – and teach the pop psychologists who are talking, talking still, a thing or two about “emotional honesty”.

Dr Silvia Hartmann

September 2010


First, I want to say a word of gratefulness to our Hawiian relatives for reminding us that  everything outside of us exists as a projection from inside.  “I Am Responsible for My Experience”.  Dr. Lin proved this theory in his work with prisoners

In these times of deInception, disEase, and disEnchantment staying in balance is not easy.   So much that appears to be outside of ourselves is attempting to knock us off balance.  Most of us were feeling the happiness vibe of spring, renewal and healing just as the Boston tragedy occured.  Now, what I see in postes is anger, disbelief, distrust and sadness.

Now is the time to be in balance for so many reasons – too many to name – and all of which you already know.  It is when you are out of balance that the darkness filters in. Stay in balance.  Meditate, raise your vibration, love, love and love…

Taking full responsibility for whatever I perceive as a ‘problem’ makes it possible for me to resolve it. It’s much easier to make changes inside of myself than try to change another. If it’s someone else’s responsibility, then I have to wait for them to change their ways or do something to somehow deal with it and I could be waiting a long time!   Or I can understand how I am responsible for all that I experience…, and that I’ve ‘hired’ this person to play their part the way they have and that I am able to do something about it. However as with any forgiveness practice, a healing of what has been hurt in me is necessary before I can truly and congruently forgive the perpetrator. Otherwise the hurt part can easily be overlooked and remain unconsciously hurting, making my ‘forgiveness’ incongruent, and therefore ineffective.

Once I have healed what was hurt in me (the second movement in The Three Movements of Healing), Ho’oponopono can make the rest quite easy. Would you consider taking the time to focus on those that have suffered and those that caused it?   If you can’t do that, then consider visualizing the person you want to forgive (or just connect with in a more positive way).  You then say four statements to them in your mind’s voice, “I am sorry.” “Please forgive me.” “Thank you.” And, “I love you.”

I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.


Just speaking of a small part of you now.  The part of you that is in the 3D physical shell that you inhabit.  The part of you that came to this planet how every many years, months, days, minutes and seconds ago through the portal of your mother’s cervix.  Let’s call it “George”.  

When George began the journey from a single cell to a body of bazillions of cells, he found himself floating in a sea of fluids.  As he floated there inside his mother’s womb, listening to the sounds all around him, listening to the heartbeat of his mother.  Listening to her thoughts – which included her fears, her pain, her happiness that were not only related to George, but to everything around her.  And, as a kinesthetic being George’s tiny body, however many cells he had at the time, was also reacting and connecting to the mother’s body sensations in response to her world. 

George learned how to breathe, how to sense and interpret and how to react to everything around him… because until the womb released him, he and she were of the same organism.  

Then the big push came and George emerged from her body into the outside world and began that experience.  The experience of a human being.  From the very beginning George learned that he was at the mercy of his surroundings.  No longer was he incased in warm fluids floating and observing.  Now, he was immersed in a world where he was dependent on others to feed him, to provide warmth, to dress him, to nurture him and most importantly – to protect him.  

If George was very lucky, he was honored, loved, coddled, protected and adored.  If he was not, then….  Well, in that case, there is so much to say that I am not sure there is room here today.  

Let’s talk about the George that was loved, coddled, protected and adored.  That is so much more pleasant.     

Let’s assume that George had caregivers, whether blood parents or chosen parents, that loved and adored him. He was listened to and everything that he did was considered “cute”, “adorable” or “so smart!”.  George’s parents provided clothes that fit and were accepted by his peers.  And, when those no longer fit they chose new ones for him.  George’s parents provided him with a kaleidoscope of experiences from the circus, zoo, lakes, art, movies to outings with the extended family.  They encouraged him when he was unsure and when he had done something good..  

These parents did everything right.  Right?  So, how the heck did George turn out to be someone who can’t hold a job down or have a decent, lasting relationship?       

It’s easy.   Programming.  Family and community programming is so subtle, so easy that it’s often totally overlooked.  

Say this child of the perfect family overhears a conversation one night between the parents that goes something like this “Father:  My company is closing in 3 days.  What are we doing to do?  We will never be able to pay the mortgage on day jobs.  You are going to have to find work outside of the home now.  I can’t do this by myself any longer. You are going to have to give up your weekly hair salon appointments and counselor sessions.  George is going to have to go to a public school.  We’re ruined!  Our whole lives are going to change now because of the economy!  We are doomed!” 

I am not going to recount what the mother might have said in reply.   And, it doesn’t matter that the company didn’t close and that their lives really never changed.  What matters is in that second or overhearing that conversation, George learned several important things (programs).  

He learned that no one is safe.  He learned that going to a public school was a bad thing.  He learned that his mother was going to have to make sacrifices and carry her weight in the family (as if she didn’t before – but he is being led to believe that she didn’t).  And, but not least, he learned that the economy decides your fate and your ultimate doom.  

As George grows up he has standards of choice.  His first standard is that he must always have money in case something bad happens.  His second standard is that his isn’t going to be the kind of woman that is pampered. She’s going to have to work just as he does.  His third standard is a “no frills” rule.  Should I go on?  

Okay, we’ll change directions for a minute.  Imagine George sitting in a lobby waiting for a friend.  There is a weekend guide there on the table.  As George flips through the guide he begins to see a trend.  It seems that during the month there are numerous “self-help” workshops being offered.  What do they all have in common?  They all promise to erase negative programming and make you more self-confident. George scoffs at the ads as he mumbles to himself “why would I need that.  I come from money.  I don’t have any problems.  My life is fantastic.”   Guess again George.  

Walking down a dark alley.  Seeing shadows all around you.  Wondering what danger is there.  Nervous. Anxious.  Fearful.  Insecure about being able to protect yourself.

Although that is a particular scenario, it covers what most of the humans on the planet are feeling right now; Uncertainty about the future.  Wondering who is going to die next.  Wondering if you are going to die.  Feeling death in your body.  Feeling death in your consciousness.  Feeling death in your emotions.

The media doesn’t help to alleviate those fears.  As a matter of fact, they propagate them with hypothesis, prophecies, conspiracy theories and possible outcomes.  The government doesn’t help with all of their secrecy.

Why am I building up this image of fear, darkness, death and dying?

To bring up the energy of it for you so that you can walk through it my relatives.   To bring it up before it consumes you and destroys you.

Most, if not all, of you reading this post are spiritually awakened and conscious of all that is going on around you.  Most of you already have tools that you use and are comfortable with.  Most of you are open to new tools and feel like I do in the way of “anything that helps is appreciated”.

We are all being put in each other’s circles for a reason.  Some would even say that we have all agreed to be on this planet at this time to experience this shift in consciousness.  Some of you even know and believe that you recently moved into this dimension from other places to inhabit a shell that the previous owner agreed to give you because they didn’t want to be here at this time.  Many of you know what I mean by that – some don’t.

Although my sources tell me that the world is not going to end… there is no end to anything, just transformation.  And, although they tell me further that many will die in upcoming earth shifts, I know that many have already died in earth shifts that have been occurring over the last 10 years.  We are born, we transform and we are born again or we walk-in.

Our existence never ends, it only transforms.   We are infinite beings.   So, why do we fear death so much?  Is it about leaving those that we love and have connections to?  That doesn’t change either, really.  Is it fear of the illusion of a place called hell that has been programmed into us?   Do you really believe that?  Do you really believe that a loving God that does so much to nurture and protect us would condemn us to a place called hell?  Do you really believe that an infinite being would choose that for themselves?

I know I am rambling, as I often do, because there is so much going through my consciousness that my typing fingers can’t keep up with it.